Our parents had some tough conversations with us, and as they age we have to bring up some unpleasant topics with them. If you're facing the difficult task of letting your Dad know it's time for him to stop driving, forethought and planning will lead to the best outcome. Here are 3 things to think about before speaking with him.
- Carefully consider his feelings. Sit down and take the time to ponder over what he will likely feel when you present the topic. Think about how he is affected by all the limitations that have come with aging. This will help you to avoid being dogmatic. Rather, you will be able to talk to him in a way that is both gracious and sympathetic.
- Offer him some alternatives. Make it clear that he won't be left in the lurch. Realize that he will still need to take care of appointments, errands, leisure, and everything else driving helps him to accomplish. Before your conversation with him, talk to family and friends about getting him where he needs to go.
- Prepare for potential objections. You know your Dad well enough to know that he'll likely put up a fight. Knowing his personality, consider what his rebuttals to your suggestions will be. Think about how you can successfully overcome them.
Go to Dad about this subject as many times as necessary. But try not to lose patience. Make it clear to him that it would be safer for him, and for others sharing the road, if he discontinued driving.
As you are learning to deal with the changes that aging can bring, be patient with yourself, patient with your loved one, seek advice and answers to questions, and remember you are not in this alone. Contact a Caring Senior Service team member today!